Purses

 I love purses…infact I have a plethora of them.  White, red, pink, navy, black x5, and multi-colored pretty much any color you can think of.  I, being the connoisseur of fine handbags, also have all different kinds.  Jimmy Choo, tons of Coach, Dolce & Gabanna, Guess (the brand, that’s not a question), Michael Koors….all different kinds.  Here is the irony to having a ton of purses…I can only carry one at a time.  As every good fashionista knows, you must carry a bag that matches your outfit.  Since that is the rule, I have to switch out bags frequently.  That habit has led me to a perfectly, self-designed system.  I have “mini” bags inside my main purse.  I have a make-up bag.  I have a bag of gum.  I have a miscellaneous bag…it has a pen, my headphones, tic-tacs and keys.  I also have a wallet.  None of these “mini” bags are that cute or fashionable, they simply fulfill the purpose of making my handbag switch easier.  Rather than fishing for objects, I just grab the little bags and throw them in the new bag.  It kind of reminds me of my Nanna’s saying….”She has a new bag, but the same old tricks”.  Here’s the lesson…it’s a stretch, but you will see it in the end.  I am divorced.  Please don’t turn off your reading eyes because of that…forgiven comes in all different
packages.  Again, I am divorced…and deep breath for the next wave of judgment…I am remarried.  I know there are those reading my posts that have been in marital bliss forever, and I am so happy for you.  I hope no one has to go through the heartache of divorce.  I wish I could have taken all of the hurt my children cried themselves to sleep with…it was horrible.  With that being said, it has been 8 years since that marriage ended.  Regardless of where you may think fault lies at the end of a relationship, you have to take time to reevaluate yourself.  That goes for any relationship….best friends, sisters, parents, etc. You may find, like I did, that you are not perfect….and the wrong on your side has to be addressed.   What could you have done differently?  Was pride an issue?  Were you not honest….about everything?   Whatever it is, take the time as much as you need to resolve the issue.  It may be that you can just address it with an awareness that you won’t do that again.  It may need to be addressed with some counseling.  It may be that you owe an apology…or two.  Whatever it is, get it done…or you will be taking the same old bags with you into your next relationship.  Those issues will be unresolved, unattractive and cause the same future as in your previous relationship.  Changing the handbag does not change the contents, it just puts it in a prettier package.